Back to Square One: Moving Back Home

Tuesday, 04 January 2011 17:28 Written by  Jamenise Wilson

Parents—we love them, yes, but stay with them forever? I think I speak for everyone when I say, NO WAY!

As young adults, we wait for the moment when we can claim our independence from our parents. The moment that most defines this is when we take the step to move out into our own place. This is the point in our life where we show our parents that we have matured enough to live our life without them having to hover over our every move. We want the freedom to play our music as loud as we want. We want the freedom to decorate with all the wild and crazy designs that we think expresses who we are.


If you’re anything like me, when I moved out to go off to college, I never thought I would ever move back. Time flew by, and before I knew it, seven years had passed. Before graduation, I had a great job working for the state. To my surprise, I was laid off due to the state making budget cuts. I had graduated from college, and soon the real world hit me like a ton of bricks. I found that it was not so easy to find a job after graduation.

I became discouraged with my situation. I thought that if I moved back in with my parents that I would look like a failure to my peers and all my friends back home. I let my pride get in the way of the bigger picture. I didn’t take the time to look at all my accomplishments. I was a graduate of an HBCU. I took the chance and left my home to venture off to another state, and I survived it all on my own.

Soon, it became too much for me to handle. The bills kept rolling in, and with no income, I decided to move back home. My parents welcomed me with open arms; they were glad to see me. They helped me with my transition and also gave me the stability I needed to focus on my goals. There was no pressure for me to hurry up and find a career path. Within a month, I knew what I wanted to do. My career path was crystal clear to me.

The point I’m trying to make is that although we would rather not move back in with our parents, it’s nice to know they are there when we need them if we have to come back home. Accept the opportunity as a chance to relax and take the necessary steps toward getting yourself together. By doing this, you ensure that you will plan for the unexpected things that happen in life so you won’t have to move back with them in the future.

Jamenise Wilson

Jamenise Wilson

Jamenise Wilson is a recent graduate of Tennessee State University. She enjoys writing poetry, urban fiction, and music. Jamenise also created the black Soap Opera “Ebony Heights.” Ebony Heights is posted every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday on the blog

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