Sleeping with a Broken Heart

Friday, 03 September 2010 12:19 Written by  Ebony L. Morman

Break-ups are typically unpredictable, yet how, when and even why they occur varies. For the most part, you are never quite able to put your finger on the problem or the exact reason that one or both partners decide to go their separate ways. Let’s face it; if you had it all figured out, then there would be no need for the split.

“It’s part of life.” bre

“Everything happens for a reason.”

“If you love something, let it go...”

“There are more fish in the sea.”

“It just wasn’t meant to be.”

“You are too good for him or her anyway.”

We’ve all been there, but when you’re in the middle of a relationship that is crumbling, or is holding on for dear life, the last thing you want to hear is how you are better off without the person who you thought would be “the one.”

So, against your better judgment, you take the advice provided by the masses. You go out to try to get your mind off of things. It doesn’t work. You try moving on to the next one. It turns out to be a bad idea. You submerge yourself in work to clear your mind. It becomes too much to bear.

Nothing changes the fact that when you go home at night, you are still alone. Being alone, especially with your thoughts, can be brutal. To add insult to injury, you don’t sleep. Although, it’s definitely not by choice, sleep just doesn’t come easy.

If I had it my way, I’d rather sleep like a baby until the pain stops, which rarely happens. As your world goes in slow motion, the remainder of the world is constantly moving.

You lay in bed each night, but nothing happens. Since time is supposed to heal all wounds, you think that the next night will be better. It’s not. While the rest of the world is resting, you are restless. It’s amazing how one person has such a hold on you even during absence.

You’ve tried everything, and nothing seems to work. The workaholic has turned into the slacker. You just can’t seem to focus. After all, you are sleep deprived. You don’t feel like yourself. You’ve lost control of your own life. You have to get it back.

Luckily, one thing you can count on is time passing. Even when you stop, time doesn’t. As each day passes, it may not get easier, but each day becomes a new day to start fresh. So, you do. If yesterday wasn’t the day, then maybe it’s today. If neither works, then there’s tomorrow.

With each break up, you have no other choice but to learn. You want to get to the point when you can be okay. You want to move on. You want to sleep like a baby. You want to get back to your regularly scheduled program.

For some people, it takes a little longer than others. Then, there’s some of us who never completely let go. We don’t ever really get that good night’s rest, because it’s almost impossible to sleep with a broken heart.


Photo by GMO Photo Editor Billy Montgomery.


Ebony L. Morman

Ebony L. Morman

GMO's Senior Editor Ebony L. Morman received her B.A. in journalism from Northern Illinois University and her master’s in journalism from Columbia College Chicago. The Chicago-native enjoys writing about almost anything, but since she also has a passion for music, writing reviews of albums has become one of her favorite past times. Aside from GMO, Ebony freelances for a variety of publications and volunteers in her community.

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