A “summer break” can be the worst thing for a couple. Unfortunately, I know from personal experience. Now, if you have honesty, the right communication and spend time together, your winter romance can outlast the summer heat.
Last year, I had the best winter relationship. We were both seniors and enjoyed our long winter break together. However, as soon as the summer came around, our individual plans got in the way of the relationship. We found ourselves drifting apart because we didn’t talk. His job was far from where I lived, which was a conflict. While he worked, I went on family vacations and started planning for school in the fall.
Communication is key in any relationship, but it’s especially important in the summer. Talking to each other as much as you can is essential. The key is to take time out of your day to call and check up on your significant other. Summer is a time for relaxation, so chances are they won’t be too busy.
Since the summer time usually means vacation time, make some plans to go places together. Plan a trip, go sight seeing or have a laid back barbecue.
“My boyfriend lives in Florida, so we use the summer to our advantage planning trips back and forth. It’s hard having a long distance relationship, but the summer gives us time to actually see each other,” says Kim Calacal.
I would always try to plan trips to the beach or go to the museum, just because I knew that summer relationships could have really cold endings. Summer relationships carry a bad reputation, so trying to actually beat the odds was my goal. Planning trips together not only lets you spend time together, but you also get to enjoy the warm weather at the same time.
When it comes to relationships, honesty and trust are key. In the summer, honesty and trust are even more important. It is summer, the temperature is raising, the clothes are shrinking, and the singles are lurking. If you want to keep your relationship, don’t go looking for trouble.
“I went out with some of my single friends one night. I didn’t tell my boyfriend because I knew he wouldn’t be too happy with me going. The next day pictures ended up on Facebook and he saw. We got into a huge fight which would have been avoided if I just told the truth,” says Hodan Abdillahi.
Don’t go places where there will be a lot of singles. Yes, the summer is supposed to be fun, but if you want to mess around, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Hanging out with friends and family is your safest bet. If you have to lie, then you shouldn’t be going anyway.
Many couples usually end their relationship when summer hits because it’s too much to handle. Some say its easier being single during the summer because it’s less stressful.
“If you’re willing to make it work, you will do whatever you can. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the summer or the winter. Whatever season it is, shouldn’t matter on your relationship. I have had plenty of relationships over the summer months that lasted because I put in the effort,” says Arturo Torres.
Maintaining a relationship is hard, despite the season. But there is just something about the summer that makes you want to have “no strings attached.” Thankfully, some people want to maintain their relationships. Keep in touch—you never know where the summer is going to take you. Plan trips together—sometimes all you need is a little reconnecting. And last but not least, be honest. I don’t know how many of my relationships ended because one of us was not being honest with the other. Summer love can exist. The trick is making it last.
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~Photography by GMO Photo Editor Billy Montgomery.
